Good to hear from you sir,its really a pleasure talking to you and your wife.We have seriously missed new editions of your soap opera movie you feature,this was my comment to the very popular Boy Alinco in Papa Ajasco television series.His real name is Ayo Bankole. He is married to
Olayinka. They share the secret of the 10-year-old union and other confessions
How did you meet?
Bayo: We saw somewhere somehow in Ibadan
on the set of a movie and that was about 10 years ago, she came to the
movie set with a small drama club from the University of Agriculture,
Abeokuta.
Olayinka: We met at a location in
Ibadan, my group organised a production and he was invited as a guest
artiste while I went as a make-up artiste. When he walked into the set
with his bow legs, people were hailing him as ‘Boy Alinco’ and they were
getting very excited over his presence. I just moved and stood alone
somewhere away from the crowd. He came to where I was standing and told
me that he liked my confidence as I was the only person who did not come
to greet him. I told him I did not have to make noise like others. If
he wanted, we could meet and talk later. That was how we started
talking.
What was the initial attraction?
Bayo: I saw an innocent girl
reading a novel by the corner while every other person was just having
fun. I discovered the innocence and the quietness which is one of the
things one requires in a woman. She is also beautiful and I think she is
brilliant too. That was what I needed to woo her.
Yinka: It was not love at first
sight. Then there was no GSM and we communicated through emails, so I
gave him my address and he came to Abeokuta. While we communicated, I
came to understand that he had some hidden qualities that most ladies
did not know about. I observed that he was humble, God fearing,
hardworking, independent and straightforward. He is not one of the lazy
men who go around looking for quick money.
So far, how has the journey been?
Bayo: It has been quite good and
fun filled, although there has been ups and downs, we have acquired more
knowledge along the line. As a man, handling a woman is not an easy
task; it is bigger than the ambition of becoming a millionaire. The task
of being a responsible man and trying to create a balance between the
home, social life and more is not quite easy but to God be the glory. It
has been wonderful and that has been because of the woman. I spend more
time outside the home and she has been there always. She is taking care
of the kids, still running and minding her own business. The
relationship will go far because at the beginning, we were trying to
understand each other but when a relationship goes on for 10 years it
means that you have been able to maintain stability. The long years have
helped in breaking barrier of individual differences.
Yinka: It is God who has
sustained our marriage for this length of time. I am a woman who is
connected to God and I don’t do anything outside His will. I depend on
Him for guidance, counselling and wisdom and that has been able to help
me as a woman. My husband is so plain, he has nothing to hide. I don’t
go out with him most times but I can predict what he is capable of
doing.
How do you handle the arguments and fights?
Bayo: Thankfully, both of us are
very timid, I do the shouting most times and she just keeps quiet but
once she is silent, I would try as much as possible to resolve issues
amicably and apologise whenever I am at fault. Most times I would still
want to be the man even when I am at fault, but at the end of the day
after my shouting act, I would calm down and call her to myself.
Yinka: He is a strong man. He
will always want to assert himself. As a woman, I will sometimes want to
nag, when I start my nagging, he would be quick to remind me of how
much he hates nagging, that would make me control myself immediately.
She stays in Abeokuta while you stay in Lagos, how do you cope with the distance?
Bayo: When I am working, I stay in Lagos but when I am not working, I am home in Abeokuta which is not far from Lagos.
Yinka: Since we are raising the
children in Abeokuta, I have always preferred to be in Abeokuta. . If we
were based in Lagos, he would still have to travel because his job
takes him to a lot of places. It is not really a barrier. What matters
is wherever he travels to, he always comes back home and makes his
family happy.
Your work involves being around a lot of females, how does she cope?
Bayo: It does not bother her at
all, not that she does not react. I could call one lady for more than
two times and my wife could just make a passing joke about the issue and
that would be all. Of course, she knows all my male and female friends
and she trusts me that I do not overstep my boundaries. She also
understands that my profession exposes me to many people – both males
and females.
Yinka: As long as he doesn’t
bring them home, I have no reason to worry. Sometimes, I listen in on
his calls and I read his messages but such things do not affect my
emotions because I have the understanding of the kind of job he does and
I know that he interacts with all kinds of people on a regular basis.
How is the romance now that it is 10 years and there are children involved?
Bayo: Working far apart helps
the romance a lot. I can be away for a week and during that period, my
mind would be occupied with the desire to see my family. On her part
too, she is always looking forward to seeing me whenever we are apart
for a certain period of time.
Yinka: The romance is still hot and getting better. We are not tired of each other.
What does he do to make you angry?
Yinka: In the past he had the habit of shouting and that always got me very angry but these days he is learning to control himself.
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