We have seen cases where people commits s*icide, due to heart break situations. Here are tips that will make you stay away from getting heart broken. Below are the tips;
1. Forgive The Person That Hurt You: Forgiveness is the number one secret of recovering from heart break. When you truly forgive someone that had hurt you, it generate your own healing. Heart break comes as a result of disappointment or hurt from a love one. There are a lot people in marriage yet heartbroken. Most cases as a result of unfaithfulness from spouse.
It could really hurt when a spouse cheats on you. But Forgiveness is the only relief peel to be freed from hurts and heart break. Unforgiveness can hold you in a spot; it is like drinking poison and expects another person to get sick, it can hinder your access to God and your future. Unforgiveness or bitterness over a past hurt is telling yourself you do not need a future spouse or honeymoon.
A lot of people are not in a fruitful relationship today because of past hurts. They keep transferring their past experience to the very relationship they are into, at the end, they mess it up. They become over suspicious, careful and they refuse to trust, and without trust love had no foundation.
Love is the engine that drives every relationship to its destination. Forgive everyone that had hurt you in the past and treat every future relationship or spouse as a fresh person..
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2 Learn To Let Go: there is a huge difference between forgiveness and letting go of your hurt. Until you let go of a bitter relationship, you will not see a better one. If a partner show you either in words or attitude that you are not appreciated, do not stay in such relationship. The earlier you let go and position yourself for another relationship, the faster you get healed.
Every singles lady should know, when a man wants to choose a life partner, is like going to the market to purchase a product, He is like buyer and you are like the product. Every buyer wants to purchase a product that suit the purpose he or she is purchasing it for. Also buyers look out for products with added values.
So when a man walks out on you to pick another woman, do not mourn over him for too long, rather improve your product “you” so that another buyer can come and purchase you. Stop praying over a dead relationship so your healing process can begin for another fruitful relationship. Learn to let go of the past and look forward to a brighter future. Stop blaming yourself for what you could have done right, it was not meant to be, he or she was your learning process so you can be perfect for your future partner. I want to encourage you, if any person wants to walk out of your life, let them walk, they are not part of you, a part of you will never leave you. Let go of your past so you can let loose of your honeymoon. Forget about it, a large percent of your Today’s mistake is for your tomorrow’s intake.
3. Encourage Yourself: Encouraging yourself is very important to your healing process and also it helps to boost up your self-esteem. Always see yourself as God sees you. Do you know why God calls you god, because He had never created a brand like you before neither will there be any after you. That is who God is, no one before Him or will there be any after Him. Be conscious of the fact that you are a peculiar brand that will never be repeated in the history of the earth, any person that walks out of your life has lost a treasure. Encourage yourself and build up yourself-worth. People come after values, when you build good value in yourself, spouse will hunt for you.
4. Do Not Be In A Hurry To Enter Into Another Relationship:
People often say, “The best way to overcome a heart break is to get into another relationship.” Sorry, that is the worse way to overcome a heart break because there will soon be another heart break. Always be careful not to let situations control your life, be in charge of situations. Take your time to go into another relationship, forget about the hurt but learn from it. Know where you missed it. Be sincere to know your share or contribution to the failed relationship then improve on it in your next possible relationship. Be careful not to make same mistake in your next relationship and try to be open.
A lot of people make the mistake of transferring their past experience to the very relationship they are into, at the end, they mess it up. They become over suspicious, careful and refuse to trust, and trust is the foundation of love. Love is the engine that drives every relationship. Forget about your past hurt, and treat every future relationship or spouse as a fresh person.
Every relationship is a new opportunity to sell yourself, do not shut down some of your good characters or qualities simply because the other person did not appreciate it. Make sure you are completely healed before thinking of another relationship.
5. Know Every Step Back Is A Preparation For A Step Forward: I read a story of a lady that was in a relationship with a guy; he called her to say he no longer feel anything for her in the presence of his friends and said it was over. She begged him kneeling for about 2 hours yet he refused to even look at her. In the middle of that scene her phone rang, she picked it up and there was a male voice, “I am Mr. X”. We dated while growing up. Before I go further, are you married?” She replied “no, but why?” He said, “thank God”. She replied, “What is it to thank God for? I am 34 years old and not yet married.” He proposed then and there. He added, “you do not need to give me a reply take your time and pray about it, I had informed my people, I even got your number from my younger brother”. She got up from her knees and walked out of her ‘EX’. As at the time I read this story he had flown to Nigeria from the States to file for her and they walked down the aisle on the April 13, 2013 in Maryland U.S.A. Yours may not exactly happen this way, but know any one that walked out of your life is pushing you forward to a better future. The best is yet to come. Practice these steps and you will overcome.
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